Who are you?
Ever wondered what makes you say or why you over-react to situations that cause unintended/undesirable outcomes?
Humans are predisposed towards self-improvement, editing less acceptable parts of one-self for the purpose of pleasing others. But this simple survival attribute has snowballed into a self-sabotaging addiction that plagues all of society and has become the main source of chaotic thought processes and acute unhappiness.
The ego is the part of you that places you in fear. It seeks superiority allowing you to differentiate between yourself and others. Spiritual teachers recommend dumping your ego for good reason, but then if no-one had an ego, we would surely all be the same. It’s this beauty of creation that offers individualism; you just need to move beyond the Ego.
Power requires better awareness of our own needs as well as others. Self-observation, regulation and exploration helps adjust perceptions of reality and controls behavioural impulses. The problem is habitual protective emotional responses can be as difficult to break as a heroine addiction.
ego holds the key to fears
“It is what it is” ~ Author unknown
Have you become your own worst enemy? Do you endure a screaming barrage of sadistic self-chatter so loud yet so frequently that you hardly even notice you are under attack? Or perhaps you have become swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice, you blame everyone including the Holy Spirit for your misgivings and it’s evident in the fall out that surrounds you.
Expectation has a lot to answer for! It's overrated.
To get over the past you must first accept that no matter how many times you revisit it, dwell on it, analyse it, regret it, or sweat it, it’s over and the only person you are hurting is yourself. At any moment, you can change.
Is mindfulness the answer?
What are you thinking about right now? Do you ever observe your thoughts and feelings? Are they supportive or unsupportive for you? Were you concentrating on reading this website or did your mind wonder off into something completely unrelated?
It’s frightening just how inattentive we are to our thoughts. Studies are ramping up daily on the benefits of focusing the mind. Harvard Business School researcher Nancy Koehn found that the average American’s attention span in 2000 was 12 seconds compared to 2013 the average dropped to about 8 seconds. Another study showed that mind wondering is making us profoundly unhappy. The advent of social media in 2004 inadvertently catapulted society onto an over-stimulated trajectory resulting in being less attentive and over anxious.
Your point of power is right here and right now, not a minute ago, yesterday or tomorrow. But it’s not just about concentrating on the here and now, it’s about learning to clean up your whole thought processing. This is why mindfulness alone won’t change your life, but it’s a good start.
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